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09/23/2014

Beheadings, loving marriages make AFA writer wonder where God is

by Jeremy Hooper

In a piece for the aggressively anti-gay American Family Association, Digital Media Editor Ray Rooney Jr. runs down some of the things that make him stop and question whether God's eye is even focused on Earth. In one paragraph, he lumps together barbaric beheadings with, um, well—here, take a look:

Militant Islam has declared war on all Jews and Christians but our civic and religious leaders keep telling us that Islam is a peaceful religion. This, despite the fact that videos showing the barbaric beheading of Americans and other Westerners by Islamists has become almost routine. The practice of homosexuality continues to split Christian churches and denominations. Activist judges with little or no understanding or regard for the Constitution continue to undo the will of Americans who have consistently voted to protect biblical and traditional marriage at the ballot box.

Emotions rise up within me quite often causing me to wonder where God is...

KEEP READING: Where Are You God? [AFA]

It takes an American Family Association staffer to link together the horrors of the newspaper's most graphic world news with the happiness of its wedding announcements. Even your run-of-the-mill opponent of same-sex marriage would shy away from putting Neil Patrick Harris' recent wedding in the same paragraph of horribles with those nightmarish videos to which we have become sadly accustomed. But at the AFA, that's just another day at the office. An executioner's sword? An officiants' gold bands? Tomato, tomahto.

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09/23/2014

Video: A reminder that marriage equality won't silence spineless anti-gay a*holes

by Jeremy Hooper

You know what's a horrible thing to do? Scream at a couple when they are in the middle of their wedding ceremony.

You know what's a true blight on our social fabric? Anti-gay hostility.

You know how anti-gay hostility is typically delivered? In a cowardly way.

Put the three together and you have the basis of this news report out of California:


(h/t: Towleroad)

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09/22/2014

'Ex-gay' org. excited to be 'featured exhibitor' at #VVS14

by Jeremy Hooper

Values Voter Summit 2014 will feature Governor Sarah Palin, prominent GOP US Senators like Rand Paul and Ted Cruz, several House Republicans, and a whole host of prominent conservative movers and shakers. One of the big exhibitors on hand at this, one of the premiere conservative events on the conference schedule, will be a group with a sole focus on "changing" gay people:

PFOX: Ex-Gay Is Real, Change is Possible

PFOX to Exhibit at Values Voter Summit and Promote Second Annual Ex-Gay Awareness Conference Set for October 3-4 in Washington, D.C.

Richmond, Va.—To help promote and prepare for its upcoming conference, Parents and Friends of Ex-Gays & Gays (PFOX, www.pfox.org), a non-profit organization serving families and the ex-gay community, will be one of the featured exhibitors at the Values Voter Summit in Washington, D.C., this weekend.

Set for this weekend at the Omni Shoreham Hotel in the nation's capital, the Values Voter Summit brings together some of the top names and organizations active in conservative politics to discuss pressing issues critical to the nation.

"We are excited to be a part of this group of game-changers at the Values Voter Summit this weekend in D.C.," said PFOX Executive Director Regina Griggs. "Here at PFOX, we encourage unconditional love for family members and friends who identify as homosexual or transgender, and we are looking forward to sharing our mission as well as information about our upcoming conference with the thousands of attendees who are joining together to bring about positive change.

"Those at the Summit will be able to meet PFOX families as well as register for the upcoming PFOX conference, where former ambassador Alan Keyes and American Family Association's Sandy Rios will be featured speakers. The conference is a wonderful opportunity for people to hear the positive testimonies of members the ex-gay community and learn how they can help spread the good news that change is possible."

Values Voter Summit was created in 2006 to provide a forum to help inform and mobilize citizens across America to preserve the bedrock values of traditional marriage, religious liberty, sanctity of life and limited government that make the nation strong. It has drawn as many as 3,000 plus attendees from around the nation and internationally.

PFOX's exhibit, along with others, will open at 3 p.m. Thursday, Sept. 25, in the hotel's Ambassador Ballroom and Birdcage Walk. Registration for the Summit also opens at that time. On Friday, exhibits will be open from 8 a.m. to 7 p.m., and the Summit officially begins at 8:45 a.m. with the morning session and panel discussion titled, "America Abroad: Our Role in the Global Quest for Freedom."

The PFOX exhibit will remain open from 8 a.m. to 5 p.m. Saturday. Other exhibitors along with PFOX will include: American Family Association, "America" the Movie, Charisma Media, Concerned Women for America, Family Research Council, Freedom Alliance, Freedom X, Heritage Foundation, Liberty Counsel, Liberty Institute, Live Action, Media Research Center, National Organization for Marriage, National Religious Broadcasters and Patriot Voices.

At the Summit, PFOX will share information about its upcoming second annual Ex-Gay Awareness Month Conference, set for Oct. 3-4 in Washington, D.C. The conference will educate individuals and lawmakers on the reality that change is possible for those who struggle with homosexual feelings.

FULL: PFOX to Exhibit at Values Voter Summit [PFOX]

No, PFOX, you only think you will be promoting Ex-Gay Awareness Month. In truth, you'll be helping us promote the toxic, dangerous, anti-scientific, downright eliminationist ideals to which mainstream conservatives still so often pander, even at the obvious detriment of their chosen political party's national profile.

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Three of history's four women Supreme Court Justices have now performed same-sex weddings

by Jeremy Hooper

Ekagan-1Justice Elena Kagan has joined Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg and former Justice Sandra Day O'Connor on the list of US Supreme Court Justices who have performed same-sex weddings:

Justice Kagan Performs Her First Same-Sex Wedding [AP]

Meanwhile, Justice Antonin Scalia is still saying his "Hail Marys" for inadvertently pushing his link sausages to close together at a weekend breakfast.

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GLAAD: Questions we'd like reporters to ask at the Values Voter Summit

by Jeremy Hooper
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Questions we'd like reporters to ask at the Values Voter Summit [GLAAD]

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HA! Robert Oscar Lopez mentions me in truly bizarre amicus brief to 5th Circuit

by Jeremy Hooper

Actually, I don't often write to anyone and claim anything about anti-equality activist Robert Oscar Lopez and his odd approaches to reasonable discourse. Instead I just show his own verbatim and sourced words (with most of the links pointing back to his very own site, in fact) and let people judge for themselves, which I will do again right now:

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Facts

-- Claims the LGBT rights movement has "become an engine of world-historical evil": "When you see a movement as unprincipled and ruthless as the gay lobby is, you must be clear that you have an enemy.  The gay lobby is not your friend.  Any friendliness from them is likely manipulation and subterfuge.  Remember: your end goal is to pour burning coals on his head, not to have tea and crumpets and reminisce about the good old days when you were classmates at Dartmouth.  When they invite you to dinner with the kids they conceived with a surrogate, they are trying to brainwash you, as they’ve already brainwashed the kids.  Remember that."

-- Claims "The Gay Movement is an International War on Black People"

-- Says that by siding with the majority to overturn the Defense of Marriage Act, Supreme Court Justice Sonia Sotomayor failed to connect the dots between same-sex parenting and slavery: "Incidentally, through my Puerto Rican roots I am also the descendant of African slaves, as I would guess Sotomayor might be as well. The scars inflicted on the survivors of slavery are tied to the fact that our ancestors were bought, sold, and robbed of a link to our biological roots. This is precisely what gay parenting does to kids through baby farming, adoption on demand, insemination, and surrogacy. You don't solve the historical trauma of such uprooting by vindicating the purveyor of the trauma -- in the case of slavery, white negreros, and in the case of same-sex parenting, gay activists who selfishly placed their desire for a family over children's needs for a mom and a dad. Slavery isn't the only past crime against humanity that offers warnings against shielding "parents" from scrutiny of their deprivation of children's roots. Did it protect the children born as slaves to keep slavery legal? Does it protect children deprived of their fathers to make it legal for the lesbians who have sequestered them to continue excluding them from contact with their fathers? Is the wise Latina awake? Paying attention? Just not connecting the dots? Hello!!" 

-- Directly compares gay parents to slaveowners: "Slavery is the buying and selling of children. In US history, people whose families weren't large enough to work their own land paid slave owners to breed their male and female slaves, then bought their babies and raised them, presumably as beloved members of their family. Gay couples are no better when they arrange such things, even if they lie to themselves and say it's for love. To love a child you have to love yourself and the other biological parent; it all goes hand in hand. Otherwise you're being selfish and abusive. You are selfish and abusive in the way you put forth fraudulent arguments to justify the sale of human chattel and give over to modern slavery in the name of gay liberation."

-- Accuses a lesbian couple fighting in court for marriage of "us[ing] their special-needs children as propaganda to force gay marriage on a state"

-- Writes of gay men and their sex lives: "I have often wondered if a very large percentage of gay men have chronic PTSD that one would expect of rape victims."

-- In open letter to a theoretical lesbian couple with a child, refers to same-sex parenting as "this crime": "Why engage in debate with me at all if you are going to limit our vocabulary to brainless platitudes like "my family counts," "my family exists," and "I am as good as you"? Do you plan to keep your daughter in this Orwellian state of dumbed-down doublespeak for her entire life, lest she suddenly realize that you deprived her of a dad and spent much of her childhood trying to deflect blame for this crime onto other people?"  Adds: "Do you ever plan to apologize to the girl you are raising for violating her basic human rights, severing her from her father and denying her a father and controlling her for your own quest for validation?"

-- Equates same-sex adoption with "cultural genocide once used against blacks and Indians": "The gay community is now entirely allied to the cultural genocide practices once used against blacks and Indians, since they are determined to say that, in the words of Nancy Polikoff, genetics doesn't matter as long as an adoptive couple can sway the powers that be to award them children. It all feels new and shiny to the gay community, because to them it's a way to overcome past inequality. But they are repeating the same genocidal practices of the past."

-- Yet another slavery comparison:"Gay marriage has caused slavery to return to the United States and the nation's courts and lawyers are ignoring the 13th Amendment. We are failing as a society."

-- Without any evidence, claims that the late Tyler Clementi probably "had liaisons with men who were older than eighteen and committing statutory rape.

-- Described the anti-bullying "It Gets Better" project as "expressly designed for delivery to vulnerable minors in a state of potential nervous breakdown;" added that the late Tyler Clementi's parents "need to step up and show true courage; rather than allow their son to be exploited by the very same subculture that actually caused his death, they need to take the LGBT movement to task."

-- Slurs same-sex parents as "slavers buying children from poor surrogate mums overseas": "The testimonials from happy children of same-sex couples are obviously handpicked and staged to maximize the value of propaganda, but a gullible populace won't ask what isn't being printed or broadcast. A gullible populace prefers ingesting whatever is printed or broadcast. 'Love' is a meaningless mantra, like 'nobody is really listening to your phone calls' or "we need drones for national security purposes" out of the mouth of Obama; but in a country where people are swayed by Obama's silky voice, why would people not be swayed by gay couples saying, 'we aren't slavers buying children from poor surrogate mums overseas, we love our kids'?

-- Claims the Human Rights Campaign "abets chattel slavery in the form of gestational surrogacy

-- Claims Disney Channel show featuring lesbian parents is meant to "anesthetize us to cruelty"

-- Says of LGBT activists: "Dear God, these wacko LGBT full-body totalitarians don't know when to stop. They must control ALL forms of government record-keeping, ALL possible conversations between doctors and patients, ALL lessons in EVERY classroom, ALL jokes made in EVERY military barracks, ALL tweets, ALL florists and cake-bakers and photographers and....Dear God, they are taking over the whole world!!!! God help us."

-- Says neighbors should intervene in lesbian households "to make sure the kids don't turn out totally screwed up": "Listen, lesbian moms out there -- cut the crap. You went out of your way to place helpless children into a fatherless home. You knew your household was going to be controversial. You shouldn't have created this situation in the first place. Now that you created it, we all have to make the best of it. Your loved ones and neighbors should be intervening in your household to make sure the kids don't turn out totally screwed up." 

-- Claims gay people who use reproductive assistance are "re-pathologizing" homosexuality: "If it's normal to engage in homosexual relationships then you can't justify using sperm banks or surrogacy to procreate, in cases where a gay man's testicles are functioning perfectly and a lesbian's uterus and eggs are fit for action. The fact that you're not interested in matching functioning testicles to a functioning uterus because you're gay is supposed to be NORMAL; if we start involving medical treatments for you, then you are reinforcing the notion that homosexuality is a defect. That undoes the whole de-pathologizing move of forty years ago."

-- On same-sex parenting: "Lesbian moms allow the sources of their children's sperm to run off and be unbothered, saying to themselves, 'those two dykes will care for my kid, shit, I don't owe the world anything.' Gay dads are just two pairs of men running off to live in a world of men, avoiding the hassles and PMS and demands of the women who bear them children. Both forms of same-sex parenting pass on more broken family ties, cause more erasure, sever children from their origins, and teach men to be fatherless and feckless all at once."

-- Accuses "the gay lobby" of "pushing internationally to bring back chattel slavery in the form of gestational surrogacy" and  "carrying out a systematic cover-up of the community's global pederastic sex trade"

-- Claims "support for gay marriage means supporting the view of children as COMMODITIES FOR PURCHASE, otherwise known as SLAVES."

-- In downright nasty (and vulgar) take on Edie Windsor's forty year relationship, Lopez reduces her shared decades with her late wife as being all about sex: "So it goes with Edith Windsor and the woman she was having sex with. She went to the Supreme Court and demanded that American taxpayers reward her for having lesbian sex by issuing her a back check for $300,000+. This is what civil marriage is based on. The country pays you to have sex. When it's a man and a woman having sex, it makes sense -- we need men to have sex with women so that we procreate. Why do we need Edith Windsor to have sex with another lady? What is the public interest in their sex life? They have the freedom to engage in sex because after Lawrence v. Texas, anti-sodomy laws have been deemed unconstitutional. So it's not possible for the state to prevent Edith Windsor from jumping into the sack with another sexy senior female and using dildos, dental dams, frottage, or whatever stimulating activities might send them into erotic thrall. They are free to do that. Once they are legally married, however, and they want the state to pay them for this mutually gratifying sexual activity, they are now no longer free to stop having sex. If Edith and her partner were to keep their clothes on for twenty years and not even do anything erotic at all, her partner could sue for divorce and claim sexual neglect. They would have to go to divorce court. Judges would have to know facts and figures about how they serviced or didn't service each other's erogenous zones."

-- Equates same-sex parents with abusers: "So the kid is basically a victim of two gay adults, who are now (without realizing it) rubbing it in the kid's face. 'See! Everyone says what I did is okay! You have NO reason to complain!' This is the way abusers often treat the people they abuse: They send flowers and apologize, justify themselves, make their victims feel it's all in their heads, publicly force their victims to say they're happy and nothing's wrong...I hate seeing kids be exploited and placed in traumatically uncomfortable positions. I hate seeing them be crushed into submission with the emotional tricks of abusive adults."

-- Claims surrogacy, adoption, and other paths same-sex parents take toward parenting recall "many of the worst vices against humanity that have been committed in past eras"

-- Published fiction books bashing gay life

-- Blames America's LGBT rights movement for other nation's draconian bans on homosexuality: "If we do not clean up what's going on in our own backyard, we will only make the problem worse, increase the alarm overseas, and incite ever-increasing levels of antigay backlash. No, I am not excusing antigay backlash that goes this far -- but I am saying that we can't ignore what's happening at home because, in fact, the best way for us to help counteract the antigay backlash overseas is to reform our own gay lobby and inspire other nations with examples of a country that can find a reasonable middle ground of acceptance and support for homosexuals, rather than blatant antigay repression on one end, or the tyranny of LGBT social engineering on the other end."

-- Says "I think polygamy is far preferable to same-sex marriage because at least there is a father and a mother in a polygamous household, irrespective of how many additional fathers or mothers there might be."


Robert Oscar Lopez [GLAAD CAP]

But now check this out. Lopez has filed an amicus brief with the Fifth Circuit Court of Appeals in hopes of stopping same-sex marriage there, and I'm actually in the bizarre filing:

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Robert Oscar Lopez Amicus Brief by Equality Case Files


(h/t: Joe.My.God.)

People can find countless links that define you as anti-gay? Um, that's because you are, Bobby—and aggressively so. You seem to be the last one to know that, due to some reasoning stream that is almost impressive for its sheer lack of self awareness, but that ability to accept your chosen lot in life doesn't make it any less so.

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Gay man realizes he shouldn't have entered an opposite-sex union—so no same-sex marriage for anyone?!

by Jeremy Hooper

A woman by the name of Janna Darnelle was married to a gay man. That gay man sought a divorce after he realized he could no longer live a lie. For whatever reason (she glosses over it), a judge then awarded primary custody of their two children to the husband.

Now Ms. Darnelle is using that personal tale to condemn marriage equality writ large. In her telling, legalized same-sex marriage is the catalyst for what happened to her. And in Ms. Darnelle's view, her gay husband should have just stifled his truth and gone about their marriage, no matter how lacking in passion it might have been:

Every time a new state redefines marriage, the news is full of happy stories of gay and lesbian couples and their new families. But behind those big smiles and sunny photographs are other, more painful stories. These are left to secret, dark places. They are suppressed, and those who would tell them are silenced in the name of “marriage equality.”

But I refuse to be silent.
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A good marriage doesn’t only depend on sexual desire, which can come and go and is often out of our control. It depends on choosing to love, honor, and be faithful to one person, forsaking all others. It is common for spouses to be attracted to other people—usually of the opposite sex, but sometimes of the same sex. Spouses who value their marriage do not act on those impulses. For those who find themselves attracted to people of the same sex, staying faithful to their opposite-sex spouse isn’t a betrayal of their true identity. Rather, it’s a decision not to let themselves be ruled by their passions. It shows depth and strength of character when such people remain true to their vows, consciously striving to remember, honor, and revive the love they had for their spouses when they first married.
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My children and I have suffered great losses because of my former husband’s decision to identify as a gay man and throw away his life with us. Time is revealing the depth of those wounds, but I will not allow them to destroy me and my children. I refuse to lose my faith and hope. I believe so much more passionately in the power of the marriage covenant between one man and one woman today than when I was married. There is another way for those with same-sex attractions. Destruction is not the only option—it cannot be. Our children deserve far better from us.

FULL: Breaking the Silence: Redefining Marriage Hurts Women Like Me - and Our Children [Public Discourse]

The truth, of course, is that gay men should not enter into heterosexual unions. Unfortunately, that has been happening for eons due to the pressures of a heteronormative society. The legalization of same-sex unions, and the acceptance of LGBT rights and people at large, will lessen this burden for future generations. That is a great thing for everyone, gay or straight.

But it is completely nonsensical for Ms. Darnelle to put out this story—and for Public Discourse and conservatives like Ryan Anderson, the editor of Public Discourse, to promote it—as if it is some sort of warning sign for the entire nation. Ms. Darnelle was probably caught off guard, sure. She feels betrayed, even. It probably is not a great situation on the whole. But first off, hers is a one-sided telling that seems to have many gaps (the primary custody thing in particular is unorthodox) and that is clearly motivated by her own personal religious and political leanings. But beyond even that, her column has nothing to do with marriage equality or even homosexuality, really. If anything, it has to do with the truth of sexual orientation, not any associated rights. But really it has less to do with being gay at all (other than her stereotypical attempts to besmirch her husband with possibly untrue and most definitely truth-stretched anecdotes about his supposed "lifestyle") and more to do with the ability to dissolve marriages through a process we call divorce. If there is any policy matter that Ms. Darnelle seems to be against it is the notion of legal dissolution of the marital bond. Every thing she mentions in her commentary could also apply to a straight man who left her for another woman—something that happens all the time with no one using it, or the step parenting that results, as an indictment of the institution of heterosexual marriage or the notion of blended families.

But this is where the anti-gay movement is right now: in a period where there desperation has led them grasping at straws and a place where they are turning nastier in the way that they do it. Increasingly, they are going after us and our family structures (Ms. Darnelle demands that same-sex families are "manipulating nature" yet says nothing about adoptive straight couples, heterosexuals who use reproductive technology, heterosexual stepparents, etc.) in really far-fetched yet truly nasty ways. They are losing on the merits so they are now acting like fortune tellers who see a devastated world that is trampled under the foot of a gay Godzilla. This attempt by Ms. Darnelle is a perfect example of the shameful zone into which our losing opposition has relocated.

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Your daily 'Gay Gestapo' moment with the American Family Association's senior analyst

by Jeremy Hooper

Bryan Fischer is one of the biggest fans of co-opting Nazi imagery (the word "gestapo" gets its root from the German secret state police that helped carry out "The Final Solution") and misapplying it to modern proponents of basic civil rights for LGBT people. Here's his weekend demand:

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[American Family Association issues analyst Bryan Fischer]

Sure. Because you've seen all of those videos where happily married lesbians demand evangelical Christians convert or die, right?

Of course the truth is that Bryan has a broken read on "religious liberty," with his meaning of the term giving him unfettered right to discriminate against LGBT people in every sector without recourse or even question, with any such recourse or questioning being what he sees as the "threat." Which is one of the big reasons, ironically enough, why he and his support base are the ones who are truly bleeding the American church of its support, particularly among young people. This generation and future generations might be just as interested in the God of man, but they are not so interested in the "culture wars" of Falwell.

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