Video: Straight vs. 'ex-gay" -- an irreconcilable difference
Wayne Besen has identified four women who were once married to closeted gay men that identified as "ex-gay." These are the sad stories of living under false pretenses with a man who they never really knew:
This is the damage that you never see. You sometimes hear about the alarming "ex-gay" failure rates. You often hear about the "ex-gays" who leave and become ex-"ex-gays." But you never really hear from those who innocently and unwittingly bought into the idea that they were marrying a heterosexual, only to find that curbing attraction to members of their same gender was the one vow their spouse couldn't keep. Their tales, like their exes, all too often remain in the closet.
You really should hear from these types of people more, as behind every claim that gays should "change" and become a heterosexual, there are the innocent specimens that suffer from the cruel dangerous "ex-gay" experiment. But of course since sharing their tales of "ex-gay" life cannot be used to further a "love the sinner, hate the sin" mentality or to oppose gay rights, you will never hear the "pro-family" movement sharing these little anecdotes when they push for gay "change." After all, for the "ex-gay" movement, "full disclosure" is synonymous with "Achilles' heel."
ONCE AGAIN, and AS ALWAYS, this discussion is about those evil gay men and their poor victim wives.
You would think that no lesbian has EVER married a man and done the exact same thing. Or is it not a problem when lesbians do it to men?
To add insult to injury, usually the lesbians walk away from the marriage with the house, the kids, alimony and child support whereas gay men, out of an overwhelming sense of guilt, leave with NOTHING.
The only time I hear people talking about formerly married lesbians they're going on and on about how brave and courageous they were to come out and do what it took to live their truth.
Can someone, ANYONE, explain to me why these discussions are always, always, always about the evil gay men and their straight victim wives?
If I'm overstating this or making a false claim here, please direct me to a discussion on any website where people are talking about lesbians marrying men and taking advantage of them or talking to the husbands about how they've been victimed and used.
Posted by: Zeke | Oct 10, 2007 2:44:20 PM
Zeke: I don't at all get that the women are trying to make their ex husbands look "evil." I think they feel sorry for them that they were victimized by the "ex-gay" movement into living a lie.
Posted by: G-A-Y | Oct 10, 2007 2:53:09 PM
What's next? Ex-African Americans? Ex-Italian. The whole ex-gay thing is insanity!
Posted by: Rev. Mark J. Seydel | Oct 10, 2007 6:59:01 PMcomments powered by Disqus