When my 23-year-old son came out to me and my husband, I didn't say, "How could you do this?", I didn't say, "I am ashamed of you" or "Maybe you can try to be straight". I couldn't possibly say any of these things to my wonderful, sweet, and honest son. My older heterosexual son had recently been married, celebrating with a big wedding reception and so I said, "Does this mean I won't be able to buy a dress?". This sounds like a shallow statement at such an important time and a peculiar question from a woman who is ironically a terrible shopper. What was I really asking? I was asking, "Does this mean that we will be stopped from celebrating love between you and a partner in the future?"
A few weeks ago, before the passing of Prop 8, I bought a dress for my (now 31-year-old) son and his partner's planned California wedding. I was ecstatic -- not because I am so vain -- but because it meant that my son could have a big marriage celebration in front of everyone he loves and everyone who loves him. The big engagement party he and his partner had was 'magical' -- love was in the air and people came from far and wide to surround two people who were so excited about taking their vows in six months.
My son Andrew and his partner, Jeremy, the creator of this site, will get married -- whether it be in Connecticut, Massachusetts, California or Timbuktu. I will wear that dress and I guarantee you that they will be together forever, in love, in honesty and living a wonderful life that they both deserve.
So sweet. jeremy, you're very lucky to have her in your life.
Posted by: | Nov 11, 2008 9:54:27 AM
I endorse Massachusetts!
And I only wish that your fiance's future mother-in-law shared the same sensibilities as your future mother-in-law.
Posted by: tjc | Nov 11, 2008 10:23:57 AM
"I only wish that your fiance's future mother-in-law shared the same sensibilities as your future mother-in-law."
You and I both, tjc.
Posted by: G-A-Y | Nov 11, 2008 10:29:17 AM
That was really wonderful. The two of you are so lucky to have her in your life. Susan, I hope it's a really spectacular dress, and let's hope the grooms don't outshine you too much. Sounds like all of you will have big smiles on your faces.
Posted by: Mike in the Tundra | Nov 11, 2008 10:32:08 AM
Jeremy - Susan sounds wonderful - she's lucky to be gaining you as another son and Andrew is lucky having you as his husband - - - as, of course, you, dear Jeremy, are blessed to have both Andrew and Susan in your life. MAZEL TOV!
Posted by: tom | Nov 11, 2008 10:56:39 AM
Uh - so NOT fair... I had to explain the tears to my coworker. I usually prepare myself to be pissed/frustrated when reading G.A.Y. This caught me by surprise. Wow - Awesome!
Posted by: Mikey | Nov 11, 2008 11:12:15 AM
What a sweet woman. You are so lucky to have a lovely woman like that as a mother in law. Congratulations to you and Andrew!
Posted by: John Ozed | Nov 11, 2008 11:30:46 AM
That was beautiful.
Posted by: Kevin Kaatz | Nov 11, 2008 11:32:42 AM
And this made me tear up...very beautiful.
Posted by: Morry | Nov 11, 2008 11:41:51 AM
Yay! Sounds like a neat lady.
Posted by: Jeff | Nov 11, 2008 12:54:14 PM
I've got my fingers crossed for you that this ruling comes in our favor for you! You're so lucky to have her in your life!
Posted by: Daimeon | Nov 11, 2008 1:06:44 PM
I've taken to calling my partner's family my OUT-Laws. My Sister-Out-Law. my Mother-Out-Law. I haven't decided if it's clever but silly, or a nifty statement about their love for us being so "anarchist".
Posted by: Jason D | Nov 11, 2008 2:15:43 PM
omg can i hug your activist-in-law
Posted by: queerunity | Nov 11, 2008 2:27:10 PM
I LOVE Susan,... and Anthony ..and our dear JH too, of course. Yep, caught me without a hanky, d*** you, but at least at lunch, so I can fix my makeup and go on.
Posted by: LOrion | Nov 11, 2008 4:13:40 PM
Wow, you made me all misty eyed here. A woman like that deserves all the joy the two of you will bring her.
Posted by: Ed | Nov 11, 2008 4:35:22 PM
One note, LOrion: My partner's name is Andrew. But you were close :-)
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