At war with harmony: Pro anti-gays turn to 'e'
When we saw that the eHarmony matchmaking service was, due to court action, planning to open up their site to same-sex couples, we figured there would be some push back from those anti-gays who prefer eDiscord. We did not, however, expect them to go completely batpoop crazy over a matter that, to us, seems pretty middle road for a business.
Well, we were wrong. Cue flying rodent caca:
First up: Tony Perkins is actually suggesting that a better option would've been for the company to stop offering its services to an entire state:
What's worse, there were plenty of ways for the site to resolve the issue and keep its policy intact. For instance, eHarmony could have simply refused to service the state of New Jersey. Instead, Warren conceded significant moral ground, opening the door to a wave of attacks on other dating sites like catholicmatch.com.
eHarmony: Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places [FRC]
Because that's gonna go over well for the company, to not only have the gays up-in-arms, but also to piss off everyone from Passaic to Cape May. A throughly brilliant idea, T-dog!
Next, let's look at Peter LaBarbera, who's working the "gays can change" angle, and working it hard. This is a portion on a letter he has sent to the company's evangelical founder:
I suppose this means you have now officially joined the list of Companies Promoting Immorality (CPI) – a growing list, indeed. How tragic that eHarmony’s resources – and your good name — will be used to advance the cause of homosexual behavior, a changeable sin.
Your attorney told WoldNetDaily that eHarmony “spent three years defending against this proceeding …It was a burden in terms of the high costs of litigation and the time and resources management devoted to it.” Do you know what is a far greater burden? Forcing Americans bit by bit to lose their liberty by abandoning their faith and moral creed to appease modern, worldly notions of sexuality — in which behavior once universally regarded as sinful is now a mere “orientation” and the basis for “civil rights.”
Evidence that homosexuality is a behavior — and not an “identity” — issue can be found in the many ex-gays and ex-lesbians who have found freedom from homosexuality through Christ — and true love and marriage with a member of the opposite sex.
eHarmony.com Sells Out after Homosexual Activist Files Complaint using New Jersey’s Special Rights Law [AFT]
Well Pete, fortunately for you, "ex-gays" are totally free to use eHarmony. In fact, they are also free to use most every gay dating site on the landscape, as none of them bar heterosexuals. Trust us -- some of our single gay friends have more "straight" notches on their bedposts than gay ones!!
Now let's move on to Focus on the Family, who offers up this quote on their Citizenlink site:
"It’s basically the power of the government being used to force people across the country to accept beliefs that they know are not moral," said Kelly Shackelford, president of the Free Market Foundation and chief counsel of the Liberty Legal Institute. "It’s an attack on freedom, and people better get ready to fight."
eHarmony Forced to Match Homosexual Couples [CitizenLink]
People better get ready to fight? Fight the "radical" idea that gays, who are part of society, should be folded into the same? Well for those of us who happen to be LGBT, that's pretty frickin' scary, Kel. Why? Well, because believe it or not, we actually enjoy living without fear. Without persecution. Without stigmatization. Without looking over our shoulder. Without being stymied by others' religious beliefs. We like peace. And yet the closer we get to it, it seems the closer you "pro-family" folks get to rage. That's disturbing.
No, Robert? Having a business dedicated to love accept same-sex couples is not "tolerance"? Personally, we think it's the very definition. eHarmony's choice doesn't mean that the company's top brass respects or even likes gays. And quite frankly, many single gays we've talked to say they will have nothing to do with the site because they still don't feel like the company wants them there. But the company's decision -- which, again, was motivated by court action, not independent desire -- is nothing if not "tolerant." It's them looking at the landscape and realizing that gay folks aren't going anywhere, so they should probably accommodate reality.
But hey, it is much more conducive to the "GAYS ARE EVIL!!" narrative to uses phrases like "gun to the head," right Roberto?
Ugh. These people truly detest us, don't they?
Who wants to bet that scum like Peter LaBarbera are just repressed homosexuals who cannot reconcile it with their religions?
Posted by: a | Nov 21, 2008 10:34:53 AM
Jeremy - apparently that's the chrisian way!
Posted by: tom | Nov 21, 2008 10:54:26 AM
“I will join other pro-family organizations in encouraging singles to use other dating services that have not sold out their God and their moral beliefs for the almighty dollar.
…Those poor anti-gay singles. Where will they ever find love now?
Posted by: Emproph | Nov 21, 2008 1:34:28 PM
Sorry all can't 'change' without a brain transplant and genetic makeover. Sexual orientation is HARDWIRED...
Brains: How Gay and Straight Differ
Ever since scientists realized that the seat of love and lust is not the heart but the brain, they've been looking for how the brains of homosexuals and heterosexuals differ. Researchers in Sweden have new clues. Studying brain scans of 90 subjects, they found that the right hemisphere is slightly larger than the left in both men and women who are attracted to women. Men and women attracted to men, on the other hand, have brains that are more symmetrical. Brain symmetry isn't the whole story, and other researchers have found that additional variables as diverse as genes and birth order can play a role.
Posted by: LOrion | Nov 21, 2008 4:10:17 PM
What about Gay.com. It is an online dating site for Homosexual's only. I feel repressed as a heterosexual male just on the site. Images of gay men with no alternatives. How am I a straight male to find love on this site? I have requested the Attorney General immediately enforce the same rules upon Gay.com, up to and including a name change and images of straight couples be posted. You all are repressing me!
Posted by: Matt | Nov 23, 2008 10:12:48 PM
That's a false argument, Matt. Gay.com does not prevent anyone from using the site.
The reason eHarmony came under scrutiny is because they specifically required for participants to be seeking an opposite sex partner, and rejected folks who were not looking for that particular relationship model.
Posted by: G-A-Y | Nov 23, 2008 10:55:38 PMcomments powered by Disqus