Some men are drawn to penis. Ted Haggard is one of them.
Ted Haggard likes dudes. He may also like girls, but he definitely likes boys. He knows it. Some guys know it firsthand. And his wife has even indicated that she knows. He is a person who, to some degree, is attracted to men.
As this current maelstrom of Haggard press ("Oprah" and "Nightline" today; "Larry King Live" and an HBO doc tomorrow) plays out, that simple fact is all we really care to say on the subject. Whether his life is painted as a "stuggle" or Ted is presented as a "heterosexual with issues," the bottom line remains: He likes dudes. And personally, we're pretty tired of the silly, overwrought game of pretend that surrounds this man.
I agree 100% Mr. Haggard might very well be bi-sexual and I also believe the criticism he has received due to his stance on gay right issues is rightfully deserved - but at the same time I can understand the "struggle" part.
He is a man who has chosen to follow a faith that is incompatible with homosexuality – and when your faith is as strong as your biological reality – it’s is a struggle to reconcile those issues.
Though my understanding of the ex-gay movement has changed over the last year or so (mainly due to my daily dose of Good As You) – I still sympathize with the people who have to deal with reconciling their faith and their sexuality.
Posted by: Alonzo | Jan 28, 2009 2:21:12 PM
Yea Alonzo, I "get" the struggle part too. But at the same time, I loathe the misinformation that comes with stories like this. We hear about his "struggle," his "restoration," his being a "heterosexual with issues," etc. All of this muddies the truth and further stigmatizes gay people.
Posted by: G-A-Y | Jan 28, 2009 2:36:48 PM
I agree with the stigmatizing of gay people - the whole idea that just because some gay people have chosen to follow a faith that is incompatible with their sexuality means the rest of us should be denied equals rights or that just because a few people have made that choice is somehow proof that "gays should/could change" makes me want to pull my hair out.
Posted by: Alonzo | Jan 28, 2009 3:00:16 PM
I'm over Ted too. I'm over people who want to change anyone else. I'm especially over people who want to control others with their religion.
I went through the whole faith vs burgeoning sexuality thing, and it didn't cause me to lead a confused, conflicted, deceitful life -- instead it caused me to examine my faith more thoroughly, the roots of it, how it began, by who and why? Through that examination I discovered that it was BS put in place to control the minds of the masses.
Faith quickly loses when you break it down like a car and try to put it back together again. You'll find none of the pieces fit, and never really did.
Ted needs to find a man and enjoy THIS life, instead of trying to get to the next one by following the scribblings of ancient nomadic goat herders trying to explain lightning, thunder, and why the ground sometimes shook.
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