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08/14/2009

The truly 'silly' thing, NOM, is your professionally hurtful existence

by Jeremy Hooper

When fairness advocates found out that the Tim Hortons coffee chain was lending its name to an anti-gay National Organization For Marriage event, we were understandably concerned/annoyed/perturbed. Because while we understand that anti-equality forces have the right to stand against any civil right that they wish, we who fight to preserve LGBT civil liberties have the right to speak out against those who are standing against us. And that right extends to any unfortunate corporate decision-making that is decidedly anti-LGBT.

But when NOM is the target of our pushback, they are of course shocked -- SHOCKED! -- that we could ever see a need to defend our lives and loves against their well-financed pushes for civil disicrimination:

More news: This Sunday NOM president Maggie Gallagher will be speaking at the first annual Celebrate Marriage and Family Day sponsored by our Rhode Island chapter. This day is not intended to be a political event; it's an opportunity for husbands and wives and their families to come together for an ice-cream social, listen to a nationally-recognized Christian band, renew their vows with pastors standing by, and celebrate the vision of marriage as the union of husband and wife.

But when gay-marriage advocates found out, what did they do? They organized a boycott against a company that donated a few hundred cups of coffee to the event. All Canadian media was agog! Give coffee to bigots!?! (Translation: by "bigot" they mean people like you and me and the majority of Americans, who support and promote marriage as a union of husband and wife.) On the one hand this kind of thing is small potatoes, more bemusing than outraging. I mean, just Google "Chris Plante"--our capable NOM Rhode Island executive director--and see all the news headlines from Vancouver to London. It's a little silly really.

Then again, here's what I keep wondering: What kind of movement would threaten to hurt people's jobs for a few cups of coffee donated to an event to celebrate traditional marriage?

Okay, first off: Intended or not, this Rhode Island event is political. The idea is to drum up support for what they call "traditional marriage," that they can keep civil equality out of The Ocean State. And the event's speaker, Mags Gallagher, has become the public face of anti-gayness in America. So to say this Rhode Island function is not a political event is like saying Pinocchio's extended nose is due to genetics.

Then on to how gay activists have reacted: Well of course they are using the "bigot" canard, making it sound as if the LGBT community's sole response has been to point the "BIGOT!" finger in NOM's general direction. It's politically convenient for those who need us to be "militant" in order to make us sound dangerous. But the truth is that the pro-gay response to the Hortons sponsorship was a mix, with the overall intent to inform the coffee chain about NOM's true purpose. Which is exactly what we did, which is exactly why Hortons pulled out.

And finally: The question about what kind of movement would "threaten" a business for choosing to "celebrate traditional marriage"? Well, that would be a move that realizes that LGBT people are also part of America's tradition. A movement that realizes that the true "threat" is coming from the side who wants to hurt gay families. A movement that knows how to read the constitution in a fair manner. A movement that doesn't traffic in empty rhetoric, but rather in well-founded truth. A movement that is sick of being painted as existing outside the spectrum of marriage and family, and who will stop at nothing to carve out their benign, non-controversial place within society's normalcy club! A movement that will prevail.

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Same bull different era:

More news: This Sunday KKK president Ron Edwards will be speaking at the first annual Celebrate White Superiority and Caucasian Pride Day sponsored by our Rhode Island chapter.
This day is not intended to be a political event; it's an opportunity for persons that are white and their families to come together for an ice-cream social, listen to a nationally-recognized white supremacist band, renew their belief of white supremacy with the Grand Wizard standing by, and celebrate the vision of marriage as the union of white and white.

But when civil right advocates found out, what did they do? They organized a boycott against a company that donated a few hundred cups of coffee to the event. All Canadian media was agog! Give coffee to bigots!?! (Translation: by "bigot" they mean people like you and me and the majority of Southerner, who support and promote marriage as a union of Caucasian and white superiority.) On the one hand this kind of thing is small potatoes, more bemusing than outraging. I mean, just Google Ron Edawrds -our capable KKK Rhode Island executive director--and see all the news headlines from Vancouver to London. It's a little silly really.

Then again, here's what I keep wondering: What kind of movement would threaten to hurt people's jobs for a few cups of coffee donated to an event to celebrate traditional (circa 1960) marriage and white superiority?

Posted by: Jeff Chang | Aug 14, 2009 1:31:08 PM

Jeff, your corollary might not be as dated as you think. The SPLC is warning of an increase in militias since Obama's election. According to them, the same thing happened back in 1993 just before the Oklahoma City Bombing. Those guys are still out there, and they're a tinderbox just waiting for an ignition source. And, there are plenty of talking heads out there who are egging them on. Hopefully Glen Beck won't be the only one of them that advertisers pull from their ad rotations.

Posted by: Dick Mills | Aug 14, 2009 2:00:23 PM

Evidently, the 'NOM' blog site has been changed since yesterday so that Tim Horton's and Blount Seafood are no longer listed as "partners". So, they have the 'Diocese of Providence', SHINE 1220 AM radio, and an ambulance service as their "many partners" for this event, with the latter probably only there because they need to have EMT's on-site. Nice...

Posted by: Chris | Aug 14, 2009 2:15:37 PM

I love how the other side twists things. Anyone who "celebrates traditional marriage" (whatever the hell that means) is a bigot. No one is saying that. Using and twisting the laws to prevent others from enjoying their civil rights is what makes these people bigots.

Posted by: stojef | Aug 14, 2009 2:22:02 PM

I just love how they keep proving what hypocrites they are. For years now, the AFA has been calling for boycotts or other actions against any company that donates anything to any pro-gay cause. Now that our side calls attention to a company donating to an anti-gay cause, they cry foul. They become more and more hypocritical and yet continue to play the victim card. And, worse yet, so many people are gullible enough to continue to buy their stories. How can seemingly intelligent people continue to believe their lies????

Posted by: Ken | Aug 14, 2009 2:41:47 PM

Our most cherished loved ones are legal strangers, and NOM doesn't get several hundred free cups of coffee. Can't everyone see that NOM is the real victim here?

Posted by: DN | Aug 14, 2009 2:56:33 PM

I connected a photographer friend of mine with Fred Karger. He wants shots of Maggie Gallagher suitable for dart play or gun play if that is your game.

The end, those are my words. I'd personally love to see someone throw acid in Gallaghers face.

Posted by: Tony P | Aug 14, 2009 7:44:40 PM

Yikes, Tony P! Such action isn't necessary....Gallagher's countenance is bad enough without it!

Posted by: Regan DuCasse | Aug 14, 2009 8:34:43 PM

Ken, that was my first thought too! These people protest ANYONE, ANY COMPANY that not even supports gay marriage, just extends BENEFITS and recognizes legally binding state marriages! Wasn't it Home Depot that was the most recent victim of the :you see reality? we buy wood elsewhere!" threats? And then McDonalds? And Pepsi? These people's lives revolve around protesting every company, corporation and person who simply acknowledges gay people exist!

I wonder if Maggie G was as concerned about the jobs of people at Home Depot, Pepsi, and McDonalds as she was the jobs of the people working at Timmy Ho's. Maybe she prefers the Canadian Maple Doughnut to the McFlurry and the dollar menu.

Such raging hypocrites. Such stupidity.

Posted by: Stef | Aug 15, 2009 2:34:29 AM

And to add to that, did anyone in the LGBT community actually CALL for a protest, send e-mails, letters, etc, like these people do? Or was it more of a "well if Timmy Ho's wants to tell me in a round about way they don't like my marriage, they don't have to get the five dollar bill I swingled out of my hubby's pocket I was going to use for a doughnut." kind of mass mentality? Because that really isn't a protest like the way these crazies protest. It's more of a concerted similar thinking of "if they think this way, they'e morons, and there's a Dunkin Donuts down the street anyway".

Posted by: Stef | Aug 15, 2009 2:36:35 AM

NOM often refers to being called "bigots" in an effort to make themselves look like victims, but I strongly feel like it's a big mistake for them to go this route. Every time they complain about being called "bigots," they're essentially drawing attention to the fact that many people think of them as bigots.

Posted by: Bruno | Aug 15, 2009 5:20:00 AM

"Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof." Math 6:34.

We have every right to protest to evil we see, in NOM or anyone else.

Posted by: Bill Ware | Aug 15, 2009 10:48:09 AM

I suggested yesterday at TWO that NOM's position boils down to this:

Righteous defenders of traditional marriage must rise up and force gay people to patronize antigay businesses in silence and without protest.

Posted by: Mike Airhart, TWO | Aug 15, 2009 1:04:16 PM

Nom-skulls.

Posted by: 1equalityUSA | Aug 16, 2009 3:32:53 AM

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