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02/18/2013

And some of us just call you wrong, Ms. Hoffman (#NotTheVictim)

by Jeremy Hooper

Former Family Research Council intern Anna Maria Hoffman is the "victim" in this whole fight to deny civil marriage rights to taxpayers like my husband and me. Don't believe me? Well here, let her tell you herself:

Yikes.

(1) If you see this civil marriage debate as anywhere close to on par with a popularity contest, you're doing it wrong. Step one: stop focusing on whatever ancillary noise you seem to have empowered and instead focus on the actual matters at hand.

(2) Stop blaming loving same-sex couples for any of the largely hetero problems that you mention. I don't watch "The Bachelor" or "Bridezillas," and I refuse to take responsibility for either.

(3) Stop framing this as a war between gay and straight families. Sure, that's what the social conservatives have told you. Truth time: They've done you a MAJOR disservice, Ms. Hoffman. I'm being serious right now. For reals. If you march forward, clinging on to the talking points that groups like NOM, FRC, and ADF have given you, you are self-limiting both your intellectual exploration and opportunities.

(4) Start looking at this for what it is: a matter of equal protection, due process, and basic fairness. A married straight man can be a real a-hole. A married gay woman can carry a truly awful disposition. Others fall anywhere along that spectrum. But none of that matters. At the end of the day, it doesn't matter if Sally the lesbian calls you a "bigot" or if Johnny the hetero hubby calls me a "f*g." What matters is that Johnny, Sally, and me, Jeremy, all fit into a category known as American taxpayer. All of us have met the acceptable qualifications that a citizen and his or her intended must meet into order to equality as a viable marriage, and therefore must all have equal access.

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