Video: ADF's Fiedorek: Lily from 'Modern Family' needs a mom
A good parent recognizes that our world is structured in infinite ways, that all families are both blessed and limited in certain areas, and that our kids benefit from exposure to all kinds of people. From culture to gender to to religion to sexual orientation (and countless areas in between), all conscientious parents—straight or gay, single or coupled, married or not—strives to give their children the most robust portrait of humanity that they possible can.
But for Alliance Defending Freedom's suddenly omnipresent Kellie Fiedorek, it's the fictional gay couple from a hit TV show that is to be singled out as failing their child. Clip is cued:
"Because the reality that the show was revealing was that something was lacking in that relationship. And while those two Dads obviously love their daughter, on the show obviously they're trying to provide a wonderful, nurturing environment for her, there was something missing. There was something missing because she didn't have a female role model as a mother in her life."
The episode Kellie references ("The Future Dunphys;" Season 4, ep. 9) does, in fact, find Cam and Mitchell encouraging a "girls day" with the hyper-femme aunt Gloria. This day entails shopping, nails, and hair—the stereotypical trappings of day out with the fun aunt. It is not a statement on some deep-seeded thing the daughter is lacking. There is no implication that Lily is unhappy or deprived or anything else. The idea is just that it would be good for her to spend time an aunt who enjoys these "girly" things that Lily herself may or may not enjoy. It's more about the cultural trappings of "being a girl" than anything else.
But of course when it's a gay couple, the anti-LGBT conservatives are looking for any opportunity to go, "See, see—they're hurting their kids!" Kellie even makes a point at the beginning of the cued-up clip of saying that many single parents are out their doing heroic things for their children, yet she jumps at the chance to knock this fictional same-sex duo. The episode was a sweet statement in which the gay and adoptive parents make a good faith effort to give their kid a strong village of support (a later plot line focuses on Lily's Vietnamese heritage), the same way either of the straight couples at the center of the show work to expose their children to experiences they might not get in daily life or specifics that are tailored to their needs. And yet to the eyes and ears of a politically-motivated social conservative (who is neither married nor a parent, it's pertinent to mention in this case), it is a talking point to exploit. It's a flaw to flog. It's yet another stealth effort to insist that gay parents harm kids in deep and unsavory ways.
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