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Presbyterians officially back marriages for gay and lesbyterians

by Jeremy Hooper

NY Times:

After three decades of debate over its stance on homosexuality, members of the Presbyterian Church (U.S.A.) voted on Tuesday to change the definition of marriage in the church’s constitution to include same-sex marriage.
FULL: Presbyterians Give Final Approval for Same-Sex Marriage [NYT]

Let's see how much the "religious freedom" crowd respects this.

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Psst, NOM—your stock photo supplier, like your country, accommodates gay marriages

by Jeremy Hooper

The National Organization For Marriage is up with another one of their pithy photo memes that position opposite-sex unions above all others:

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Funny thing though? If you go to the purchase page of NOM's stock photo supplier, you don't have to look far—just three pics down and one turn to the left—to find that their creative visionary is quite comfortable with including same-sex couples as well:

ferdiperdozniy's protfolio [iStockPhoto]

Aren't they always saying that we have to respect artists and their creative vision when it comes to wedding cakes and flowers and whatnot? Well, back atcha, NOM. If you want to use this stock photo supplier for your heterosexism and homo-hostility, at least respect that the person who supplied the creative foundation for your little motif here actually holds a vision that's much more inclusive than your own—just like the majority of your fellow citizens and the majority (and soon all) of these United States.

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Focus on the Family enters 40 days of prayer for marriage discrimination

by Jeremy Hooper

Coupled with the bald faced lie that civil marriage equality strips Christians of their First Amendment protections (selling a cake you claim to sell for profit is not an act of prayer, actually), Focus on the Family's action arm (clumsily called Citizenlink) has directed supporters to enter into a forty-day proper period geared toward civil discrimination against their gay and lesbian neighbor:

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[Focus on the Family's Citizenlink]

Well, one must find a way to fill his or her spring. As for me and my house? We'll wear brighter colors and toast America's even brighter future!

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Gabbana thanks man who calls me, Ricky Martin, Ryan Murphy, Elton John 'disgusting,' 'repulsive tyrants'

by Jeremy Hooper

It's no secret that Robert Oscar Lopez is obsessed with me. It's something of a joke in LGBT activist circles. Even though everything I have ever written or said or know or care about him is based solely on the truly crazed things that he has said and/or done as part of his advocacy work, this person can barely write a post or an article without dropping my name into it, and then coupling said name with all kinds of personal attacks about me, my motivation, my heart, my personality, and, increasingly, my family and my parenting. It's the kind of thing that makes me glad that all of America separates me from the coast that Mr. Lopez calls home, since his level of encroachment into my personal life transcends discourse and bounds right into "EEK!"

Today Lopez is back to once again call me "disgusting" and a "repulsive tyrant" simply because I pushed back against gay designers who painted my home and my family as wrong and "synthetic." Lopez writes:

Screen Shot 2015-03-17 At 12.10.50 PmThe completely petulant and histrionic response from gay parents like Ryan Murphy to Dolce & Gabbana's comments can give average Americans a small taste of what children in such homes will have to deal with. You can't be a good parent and want to have absolute control over what your kids think and feel, in addition to what the whole world thinks and feels about you and your kids. It's a recipe for emotional abuse of whoever is under your power. Look at the punitive urge, the lust for vengeance, the despotism. That is what I see in Ricky Martin, Jeremy Hooper, Ryan Murphy, and Elton John. These are men who will terrorize human beings if they can, if they are within their striking distance. They acquired children the way they get everything they want in all aspects of their lives: through economic leverage, intimidation, and sheer arrogance. Imagine being a helpless and confused child longing for a mom, and being under the power of a dad who throws out clothing and calls for all-out destruction of anyone who hints that you have lost something by being denied a mom. Imagine not one such man lording over you, but two. This is horrible. These people are disgusting. I hope and pray that Dolce and Gabbana do not capitulate to them. These repulsive tyrants must learn at some point that they are not gods, and they cannot bring the world to their knees.
FULL: Robert Oscar Lopez's blog

Well let's at least be clear about one thing: My supposed "economic leverage" is worlds apart from Murphy's, Martin's, and John's. But I digress.

Look, I really don't care what this guy says about me. With a quote bank like his, I only want to be in his rhetorical crosshairs. If I found myself in agreement, I'd be concerned.

But here's why it matters: Steffano Gabbana literally just thanked Mr. Lopez (along with the same cadre of "children of gays" with whom Lopez pals around) for supporting him in the Italian press:

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Gabbana thanks Robert Oscar Lopez [J.M.G.]

And if we're at the point in this conversation where the gay designer is thanking the extreme-tongued activist who routinely links gay parenting to slavery and who attacks gay-headed families for simply defending themselves, then that is a new wrinkle worth exploring. It certainly gives me, someone who is not afraid of a price tag if it's attached to a well-made garment, even more reason to avoid the D & G racks the next time I'm at Barneys. And if the designers keep it up, it may even give retailers like Barneys reason to keep the racks out of their stores altogether.

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Video: Sen Manchin (D) finally elaborates on his resistance to same-sex marriage; says it 'would be hard to oppose'

by Jeremy Hooper

Throughout this interview, the lone Democrat to not endorse marriage equality uses the phrase "sexual preference," so it's another indicator that Sen. Joe Machin (D-WV), someone who didn't even vote for Don't Ask Don't Tell repeal, is not where we want him to be. But when pressed why he didn't join all of his other Senate Democrats in their pro–marriage equality amicus brief to the US Supreme Court, the senator does indicate that if it were to come up for a vote, it 'would be hard to oppose" (even though he seems to want to still oppose it). Here's the cued clip:

It of course will be handled in the courts, and I even agree with the senator that it logically should play out there. But I hope he's not seeking any profile-in-courage awards on this matter. His "own preference" has been consistently out of touch with progress.

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Catholic NOM announces two speakers for its Catholic-led march against civil rights; both Catholic

by Jeremy Hooper

With just over a month to go before its third (and final?) attempt at turning its feeble "March For Marriage" into a thing, the National Organization For Marriage, a thoroughly Catholic organization that often tries to mask that true, has announced just two speakers. One is its own president. The other is a bishop most known for his nonstop war against gay people's civil rights:

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What, no Dolce & Gabbana?

Seeing as how this is a conservative effort, it's near-certain that they'll add at least one failed presidential candidate, one "whoa, seriously?!" fringe character, and at least one reality TV personality to the list before go time. But seeing as how its NOM, all questions about speaker lineup are kind of like the famed question about a tree falling in a forest when no one's around.

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Congrats, Dolce & Gabbana! America's major marriage discrimination org. thinks you're on trend

by Jeremy Hooper

From the National Organization For Marriage:

Bravo to Dolce and Gabbana for daring to speak the truth; they are as bold in their speech as they are in their designs, and deserve to be applauded. While others will continue to vent their disagreement, the billionaire pair are wonderful advocates for the true definitions of marriage and family.

Ahh, congrats, boys!!! Some gay designers work their whole careers to nab the most covers of Italian Vogue. Others apparently want to Dolce-Gabbana-Fashion-Wallpapers-3-Wallpaper-1 culminate in praise from an organization that's virulently opposed to same-sex marriage (and all things homosexuality, really).

No word on how D & G will return the favor. Although I do hear the next time NOM tries to put a minority population's civil rights up for a vote, they plan to do it in haute couture.

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Video: Conservative Republicans of Texas prez makes tourism ad for Wrong Side of History

by Jeremy Hooper

It looks like one of those call-a-lawyer ads you see in between syndicated talk shows. Except, you know—this one is about putting religious fervor above the law:

You guys, he punned "marriage" and "mirage." How will we ever overcome?

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Yes, I will absolutely #BoycottDolceGabbana. For my kid.

by Jeremy Hooper

I'm not a big boycott guy. Despite popular misconception, I, a person who was front and center in the Chick-fil-A nonsense from a few years back, never called for, signed on to, or even supported any kind of "official" boycott of that fast food chain. In general, I much more prefer to make my strong case against whatever brand or personality has dished out an offense and then let the market play out as it will, with my personal consumer choice remaining exactly that.

But I do unequivocally support the massive boycott of Dolce & Gabbana that took shape over the weekend and that is very much in the news on this Monday afternoon. In this case, the offense is so personal and so great, and from people who should know so much better, that I have no problem telling anyone and every fashionista within earshot to make a more sartorially and socially responsible choice.

For those who are out of the loop, here is what the out gay designers said about same-sex parents and our kids:

"We oppose gay adoptions. The only family is the traditional one.

"No chemical offsprings and rented uterus: life has a natural flow, there are things that should not be changed."
Dolce added that procreation "must be an act of love", saying: "You are born to a mother and a father – or at least that’s how it should be.
"I call children of chemistry, synthetic children. Rented uterus, semen chosen from a catalog."
Gabbana added: "The family is not a fad. In it there is a supernatural sense of belonging."

FULL Sir Elton John boycotts Dolce & Gabbana after row over same-sex families [Telegraph]

These words are astoundingly offensive. And they're not just offensive to gay couples, but to the millions of opposite-sex couples who have also used IVF and other methods to start a family. Al Roker ably made this point on Twitter:

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But more than just offending adults, whatever our sexual orientations, I'm much more concerned for what comments like these mean for children like mine (and Al's). As a father, my whole world now involves the protection of my child. My scope has morphed and expanded in a way that I could never put into words. When I walk through the sidewalks of Manhattan, I am in constant search of any threat, be it physical or mental or Screen Shot 2015-03-16 At 12.30.57 Pm what-have-ya, that might in some way encumber or even endanger my kid. Her safety and wellbeing is my everything.

As she grows up, she will someday come across comments like these. Fortunately most of them will be connected to sources who I suspect the wide majority will view as fringe and out-of-touch by the time she reaches an age of cognizance. But when you have gay men who run a major brand—and very much an omnipresent brand in a fashion city like the one my family calls home—making these same kinds of comments telling her that she, a child we so loving adopted on her first breath of life as part of a situation more selfless and compassionate than any I've ever before experienced, is somehow a "fad" or detached from what it means to be a family, these harmful and negligent ideas take on a whole new weight. Mr. Dolce and Mr. Gabbana's comments are not just something ignorant that some politico or reality TV star said to diminish me or my marriage or my equal rights. These comments are nothing short of psychological warfare against my child and her burgeoning mind.

I will never forget these words. I will never again purchase anything that features the D&G logo that these designers emblazon onto clothing (usually in a garish way). There is little way for them to right this. It was just too wrong.

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Keep proving animus right before SCOTUS takes up marriage case. Genius strategy, FRC. Really. I mean it. Just brilliant, guys

by Jeremy Hooper

Screen Shot 2015-03-13 At 7.05.58 PmDerek Packard is the man who shoots most of the Family Research Council's videos and whatnots. If you look at this YouTube page, you'll see some of his handiwork.

Anyway, today FRC let him write something for its "Call 2 Fall" site. And what you get, is more animus that further proves that the FRC's case against us is really about their general distaste for happy, adjusted, self-accepting gay people ("I genuinely care about homosexuals and fear for their souls") and our families ("I believe it’s heartbreaking to force children to grow up in same sex households"), and not just this particular policy matter. Here's a snip:

201503131904Twenty one Egyptian Christians (and many others) preferred to have their heads chopped off rather than deny their faith in Christ. Meanwhile here in land of the free and the home of the brave, marriage, the fundamental witness of Christ and his church to the world, has been thoroughly adulterated, with even the President of the United States advocating for same-sex marriage, using his pen, his website and his bully pulpit to push it. But we can’t blame the president for this one. It’s been in process since before no-fault divorce which became the law in California in 1969. As one brother said recently… it’s as if we want to become Sodom and Gomorrah.

How many hours have you spent on your knees crying out to God about it? Well the Lord impressed on me recently to tell everyone that you get one last chance and then it’s time for the full “Harbinger” effect to hit America.

It’s not like people have not been praying about the marriage debacle. But since we are at the 11th hour, and we truly need a miracle for marriage to survive, perhaps we should take a minute and ask the Lord why our prayers have gone unanswered?
Ten Reasons I’m Asking God to Intervene to Save Marriage

1. His Word defines marriage and God’s definition of marriage is worth fighting for. Since all other means of fighting for the legal definition of marriage are exhausted, only the Lord can intervene.

2. I genuinely care about homosexuals and fear for their souls.

3. As a man of God, I believe God calls me to protect my family, my community, and my country against evil and spiritual darkness.

4. Legal Precedent – When the U.S. Courts legalize gay marriage they granting special rights to individuals, violating religious freedoms, and I believe there will be major consequences. We are already seeing the beginning of it… and it will get much worse.

5. Love – Accepting and celebrating a sinful relationship is not loving those individuals.

6. Children – I believe it’s heartbreaking to force children to grow up in same sex households. It’s a lie to teach children that the “marriage” of two men is the same as their mother and father’s marriage. Yet that is what public schools must now do regardless of how parents feel about it.

7. I believe that the biblical marriage covenant is sacred and the bedrock of a stable society.
Eph 5:25 25 For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her 26 to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. 27 He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault.

8. We are commanded to pray for our leaders. And they are about to codify a huge mistake.
I Tim 2 tells us to pray for our leaders.

9. It will take a miracle to save marriage at this point.
Isa 43:11 “I, even I, am the Lord, and apart from me there is no savior.”

10. God beckons us to bring these type of cases before him.
Isa 43 25-26 “I, even I, am he who blots out your transgressions, for my own sake, and remembers your sins no more. Review the past for me, let us argue the matter together; state the case for your innocence.”

“God Save the United States and This Honorable Court!” [FRC's Call 2 Fall]

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