Good As You

We thought that the IYL episode was great. We hope that your mother saw it, and saw how a parent can love their child unconditionally. Kudos to your partners parents. Fortunately our families accept us 100%. And we enjoy sharing our lives with them. Our suggestion to you is to quit trying to convince mom. When you talk to her on the phone just tell her what you guys are doing in your lives. Make it very casual and matter-of-fact. Talk about the boring suburban lives you live. Let her see that we really are G-A-Y. When she starts arguments about being gay, try to change the subject, if that doesn't work, then YOU be the one to end the conversation. Send a message to her that you are more than willing to talk to her about your life... with your partner, but that you will NOT be drawn into defending it to her.

Please, I never posted on this site!! Someone has used my email as either a joke, or some sort of revenge agaisnt me. I have gotten thousands of emails, and my office has gotten lots of phone calls as well. I never said ANYTHING about ANYONE on this site. If I did, I would back it up. I have NO PROBLEM WITH GAY PEOPLE. Please let the others know,
Thank you : )

Mr. Peronance, you made the comment. Admit it..

http://www.goodasyou.org/good_as_you/2007/02/beefman_you_did.html

I agree with Paul - It is about time we started "bashing" back. Fighting the "good fight" does not seem to be working too well for us...

I wasn't going to leave a comment until I saw the Google ad at the bottom that said, "Chinese Singles For Love. Pretty Chinese women seek men for love and marriage." I think Google needs to work on its targeting software. :)

Also, I liked the segment you were in and think you should like Andrew's mom call your mom.

There is always an inner coward behind the bigot. And those so prejudiced against gay people (yes, prejudice because they resist facts and their anger and violent acts are out of proportion to the evidence and facts of gay lives), are anticipating something that isn't there and isn't likely to happen. And they really know that.

Two situations: a single mother of four children, including three sons, worked near a video store that many gays and lesbians patronized. Her twins were six years old at the time, and witnessed two men give each other a casual peck on the lips. She wasn't sure what to say or do, but her own children helped her figure it out.."oh mommy, those men really love each other, don't they?"
"Yes, they sure do." was all she had to say. Children know love when they see it. It's demonstrated in hand holding, sweet kisses and hugs and arms around each other.
They aren't thinking sex, but love...and that's the way it should be.

Next situation: I am a black woman, and my white husband and I were standing in a check out line behind two women and a little girl of about three years old.

They were finishing up, but one of the women decided to turn around and give me a death ray hate stare. My husband had walked off, so I had to deal with it by myself.
The stare familiar, but I simple and as nicely as possible said 'good morning', the woman frowned at me, but the little one turned and said good morning to me, so sweetly.
And what happened next, haunts me to this day.
That woman yanked the child around hard enough to dislocate her little shoulder and slapped the child hard in the face!
And marched off with her as if she were a conquering soldier.
Even the store checker was shocked. And I was too shocked to move in a timely way.

When love, innocence and friendliness offends...it's a sad world.
When a casually friendly gesture from a gay person results in a violent attack we are indeed a world God didn't intend.

Children, know love when they see it...but it's the most evil, immoral and cowardly among us that would teach children or hurt children...that responding to a gesture of love or friendliness or someone different, should be responded to with anger, assault and violence is truly a betrayal of God's intentions for us.

My friends twins are princely young men. Gentle and compassionate like their mother. They befriend and defend their gay peer in school.
They are sixteen now, and the little girl violated by her mother would be close to that age now.
I despair over the hurt and anger she's grown up with from her own family.
I wonder if it would manifest in something frightfully detrimental to such a beautiful young girl.

Hitler was a boy raised in hate and anger. And look how he turned out.
If we don't learn now, we never will.
And this beef guy, isn't fit to have children...nor be anywhere near children.
Let alone civilized people, gay or not.

Someone who uses the same exact screen name and email address all over the net regardless of whether he is talking crap on a blog or conducting business is simply not clever enough to spoof an IP address. Methinks this guy is trapped and he knows it.

I mean if you are going to post anti-gay and racial slurs on the net AT LEAST be smart enough to not use your business email!

I saw you on "In the Life" last night. I am a lesbian in my 50's and I was under the illusion that today's parents of young gays were more understanding and tolerant. If my mother were not dead, I could swear that that's who you were talking to. However, there were slight differences. Instead of asking for "proofs" of my gayness, my mother "knew" that I was not gay, because she saw me flirt with a boy when I was 12. I was written out of the will because my parents didn't want any family items winding up belonging to a "Lesbian". (the "Lesbian" not being me, because she knew I wasn't one, but the evil woman who had me brainwashed into thinking I was.) What lengths will preverted gays go to, to get their hands on a silver electroplated gravy boat? There was also the statment that she would never "accept" that I was gay. One can accept that the sun doesn't rise each morning, but that doesn't make it so! Interestingly, she would recount multiple episodes where she was approached by lesbians. They all seemed to be the older, stern, slightly germanic appearing wearing tweed skirts and sensible shoes who was putting the make on my mother while the "Lesbian"'s femmu young misguided girlfriend's heart was breaking. Also, the Pope says it's a sin. 'Nuff said. End of discussion. My mother kept this up to the day she died. Let your mother-in-law talk to your mom. I'm horrified that there are still parents saying that their child being gay is synonomous with them being dead. Luckily the web exists as a means of conecting with sanity. Love your web site. Thanks. Jo Lee

I think you r a whiny brat. Go get a job instead of being on the pc all day!

Oh, BJ -- so short-sighted! I mean everyone who knows me knows I'm a Mac guy all the way.

On behalf of Philadelhpia, please accept our apologies. Geez! Who is this guy? Hope he never shows up at my house selling his *meat* door-to-door.

I saw in the life last night and was most inpresed with what you have done, and just wanted to wish you all the luck with everything......

it is great!