Good As You

Hello Jeremy,
I agree with your comments regarding the "beating of pillows." I do not subscribe to the using of reparitive therapies as they do little to actually change the heart for those wanting to live straight. I believe that Christ holds the greatest hope and success for those who want to get out of their gay lifestyle. I would be amiss if I did not also qualify my statements as saying there are those who will attempt to get free of their orientation using religion, but will have a lifetime of fighting temptation, just as I do to fight the temptation to cheat on my wife of 29 years. Sinful inclinations are common to all people. I know that you do not consider homosexuality to be a sin, but for me it is and every day I need the grace and power of God to follow Him without moral compromise. Thanks for the interesting website.
Take care,
Phil Magnan

But here's the thing, Phil: I can say with 100% honesty that I have never once had the desire to cheat on my partner. This was not the case when I was with women, or even some previous men. That's because I was not really in love. But when you find your partner, your soulmate, your heart, you SHOULDN'T have the actual temptation to cheat. For me personally, I feel almost physically incapable of such. The love and care I have for him makes the thought of breaking that bond of initimacy disgustingly repulsive in my mind!!!

And you're not alone in using that line of logic. I hear it all the time. It is just not at all apropos to my own life.

An interesting contrast in the polls CNN cites: 42% believe that homosexuality is due to upbringing/environment yet 56% do not believe that being gay can be changed. So, essentially our parents screw us up so bad that we cannot even change?

I don't understand the impulse to put a limit on one's experience or understanding of God. It seems to me that it's never occurred to rightwing Christians that perhaps variation in gender and in sexual orientation is also a part of God's plan and that perhaps it might not be a bad idea to stop wasting all this time and energy "correcting" something which actually may not be broken in the first place.

Certainly, there are more pressing problems, whether one wants to adhere to Scripture in prioritizing those problems or merely Common Sense. We really know so little about Gender and Human Sexuality; but we know damn how we could feed, clothe and house the world if we cared to.

So, considering that we have a choice between dithering over something we understand very little and actually fixing something we know a lot about, we choose to dither over that which we don't understand while the problem we could fix gets worse and worse. This is Godly how?