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Video: Oh, the hot mess I avoided

by Jeremy Hooper

Back in October, this writer was approached by a "Tyra Banks Show" producer about appearing on the following episode (in the role eventually taken by The Advocate's Sean Kennedy). Ultimately, I turned down the invite, since I wasn't at all confident in my expertise on the subject matter.

Never have I been more confident in my decision-making ability:

Now, if they want me for the "anti-gay for pay" show -- I'm in like flynn! But "gay for pay" porn? I'm just not the master of that debate.

Gay For Pay Porn: All In Good Fun, or Destructive For All? [Queerty]

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Your thoughts

Well, there's an idea for a Christmas morning tradition, but I don't know how we would explain it to the kids.

Posted by: Mike in the Tundra | Jan 23, 2009 2:26:08 PM

I really couldn't watch even the entirety of that first clip, although morbid fascination wants me to move on to the next few clips. Ugh. I have no words. Just. . . none.

Posted by: Alle | Jan 23, 2009 2:50:48 PM

Just the thought of arguing the same side of an issue as Matt Sanchez would have been reason enough not to take the gig.

But, on his comments about his straight-conservative-commentator-ass being bitten by his gay-porn-past, I have to say that being embarrassed (very publicly) by your secret past (that stands starkly juxtaposed to your current embodiment) has to be expected. But it is quite another to be informed by your past.

Everyone has a history of (at least some) things that they aren't particularly proud of, what matters is that learn from them. If Matt Sanchez had become an advocate for all porn stars, perhaps by offering them some alternative to making a living in the sex trades, then his public embarrassment would have been less embarrassing - and perhaps even commendable. Just assuming that it could be swept under a rug and forgotten... probably wasn't the best option in his case.

It was pretty enlightening to find that those straight guys were pretty much advocates for gay rights. That isn't something that I would have expected. I would think, though, contrary to Sean Kennedy's comments, that those guys probably face as much (or more) stigmatization and discrimination as we in the LGBT community do. Wasn't one of them fired from a chain restaurant because someone recognized him from gay porn?

But, ultimately, we are all someone's whore - literally or figuratively. I have little problem with anyone earning an honest(??) living. And, if it does come back to bite them in the ass, then hopefully they were forewarned that it could (would) happen.

Posted by: Dick Mills | Jan 23, 2009 3:51:28 PM

UMMM...Well I am surely glad you did not take the gig! I was wondering from the first minute I watched...what if these guys just admitted they were Bi.... there, easy to love anyone! So what is the problem??

Christmas gifts.... cute metaphor...

Posted by: LOrion | Jan 23, 2009 6:38:05 PM

I never understood why adults seem to have such an interest in sex. >.<

Posted by: Clicky the Fox | Jan 23, 2009 7:31:59 PM

Yeah, I can't imagine you up there feigning interest in any of this "debate."

Couldn't care less about any of this. BUT, it was fun having Matt Sanchez admit to his past, when he denied it for a hot second at the beginning of the loltroversy. He's still and forever a turd sandwich.

Posted by: Chris | Jan 23, 2009 7:55:09 PM

Yea, Chris -- I would have just started laughing at the whole thing. Though I would have certainly jumped at the chance to bring up Matt when, at the end, Tyra started talking about how all the guys are in favor of gay rights!

Posted by: G-A-Y | Jan 23, 2009 8:06:07 PM

I really wish they had found somebody other than Sean.
Sean, in his own way, was advocating sexual orientation discrimination. People couldn't fill certain jobs because they were straight.
I got annoyed with his statements and just wished somebody would have popped up and said "I am gay and you don't speak for me".
These bartenders have worked several years in their jobs, admitting they were straight, and for this "problem" that Sean describes I bet this was the first time they had been told this.
Is he really suggesting that everybody who works at a gay bar has to be gay?
Sorry, I had to vent. I just finished watching it on Tivo.
Jeremy, while it may not have been your cup of tea, I think you would have done a lot better job...

Posted by: foundit66 | Jan 23, 2009 8:59:23 PM

I think Matt Sanchez came off the most intelligent and he was kind of hot. The gay guy from the Advocate was just horrible.

Posted by: Matt | Jan 23, 2009 9:44:13 PM

"You got to get yourself in that mode" ... Been there, done that. I think the young man showed an amazing amount of awareness. I'd totally do him and it wouldn't hurt my feelings at all if he wanted to be passive. I'm just saying, that's all.

Posted by: Houston | Jan 24, 2009 12:04:32 AM

Sanchez is lying about his dates. So sad. It wasn't 20 years ago; he has been escorting as recent as 2003. He is a P-A-T-H-O-L-O-G-I-C-A-L L-I-A-R; when will he be scrutinized with the paper trail he has left behind?

Posted by: gayHK | May 25, 2009 12:30:25 AM

Following up on gayHK's point... You can see Matt's old escort pages here...


His escort site was active and frequently updated until July 25, 2002.

He told Tyra that he joined the marines after 9/11. If that's the case he was still hooking while he was in the military because he posted an update to his site less than two weeks after the terror attacks to let everyone know he was raising his rates. Which is really creepy if you think about it.

BTW, look at the html code for the pages he posted in 2002. His full name is in the meta tags. So he's definitely lying when he says this site doesn't belong to him.

Posted by: ritz | Jul 12, 2009 5:13:17 PM

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